Perhaps the best piece of advice I ever got from someone other than my father was that if you’re mourning a major loss (of whatever kind), the best thing to do is to patiently let the back of your mind adjust to your new circumstances. Don’t force yourself to continue being the same person you were. You’ll never be that person again, and the back of your mind needs a lot of energy and downtime to evolve to support the person you still could be.
As much as your life allows: Sleep. Nap. Stare into space. Don’t force anything. Let your ambitions die for a while.
One day, the evolution will be complete, and you’ll know it. Maybe you’ll wake up from a vivid dream eager to start right that minute. Maybe something will snap in your mind, and you’ll see possibilities you were blind to mere minutes before. Maybe you’ll just feel an overwhelming happiness that seems to come out of nowhere.
And you’ll begin again.
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